There have been times when a person who is recovering from
an addiction doesn't get the benefits of a sober community as one would hope.
Sadly, there are many reasons for this. On the whole, however, support groups
can be meaningful, provide hope, and be a foundation for a strengthening
sobriety. Yet, on the rare occasion that this doesn't happen, it's important to
get the right help.
Below is a list of examples of situations in which a recovery
group is not healthy. In some situations, these circumstances are manageable.
But in others, these circumstances might grow big enough to affect the well
being of the group and all its members.
·
Personalities in a group don't get along well.
There may be arguments, bullying, and coercing.
·
One's privacy was not respected even when they
were told it would be. In AA, a person's anonymity is the foundation of their
community. However, it is impossible to enforce this when any of the members
could share the contents of a meeting with non-members. Some things that were
said in a meeting might be used against people later.
·
Sometimes, people are court-ordered or mandated
to attend recovery groups. These men and women might feel like they are there
against their will and express their anger, frustration, or emotional pain.
·
When certain religious beliefs are enforced and
members are pressured to abide by such religious beliefs, the group may become
divided and then not have the ability to be supportive.
·
Some members of the group who have been around
for some time may want to abuse their position as leaders. They may be coercive
or may even make sexual advances towards others who are new to the group and
vulnerable.
·
Some groups might even distribute and promote
inaccurate information about addiction, which may undermine a recovering
addict's attempt to stay healthy and sober.
·
Sometimes sponsors in a group may not be
supportive or even create trouble when there doesn't need to be.
If you recognize any of these situations (or know of similar
circumstances), it's important to leave any group that is either harmful or
unhealthy. In addition to this, it's important to keep the following in mind:
·
Don't judge the entire recovering community
simply by one experience. There are many other groups that can provide the
benefits you're looking for.
·
Because most recovery groups are open to
everyone, there might be a chance that a person with negative intentions joins
a group. Again, this doesn't mean you should throw out recovery entirely.
Choose another sponsor, group, or location, as needed.
·
Some groups might not fit the person. For
instance, some men and women are turned off by the religious ideas of the
12-step process. In this case, it might be better to locate a group that is
secular and more aligned with your views.
·
When you are concerned about your privacy, it
may be important to attend a non-local group and perhaps even use a different
name.
There are times when a recovery group doesn't sit well with
people. It may be unhealthy, dysfunctional, or simply doesn't match your views
of the world. If this is the case, research groups in your neighborhood and
surrounding areas before choosing another group to attend. You might also
contact a mental health provider in your community who may know of options that
suit your preferences.
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