Perhaps it sounds hokey pokey to you. Perhaps you're
wondering how being grateful for something changes your perspective. Or how
gratitude can have an effect on your recovery. Although practicing gratitude
might sound like sitting around the campfire and singing Kumbaya, to those who
consciously invoke a grateful state of mind, the effects are obvious.
And the effects of gratitude are obvious right in the
moment. It doesn't take long to notice just how much the perspective of your
life can change with feeling grateful. For instance, let's say you've just
relapsed. You're feeling guilty about what happened. You know you really want
to stay sober, but there you were with your long-time friend and having a drink
was the perfect thing to do - it wouldn't have been the same if you sat there
together without a drink in your hand.
But now that it's over, you regret it. One drink led to
another and another and another. Your friend had to drive you home while you
left your car at the bar. Then, you weren't able to get up on time the next
morning and you were late for work. Because your boss already knows that you
have a problem with drugs and alcohol, the fact that you were late and that you
were hung over didn't look good. And you've been hoping for a raise so that you
can get your daughter into another school that's a bit further away, which
means more money for gas and a babysitter on some nights. Now the raise is
probably six months out.
All these consequences came as a result of one decision,
which seemed to be innocent enough at the moment. But now that it's all said
and done, you're feeling guilty about what happened and concerned about how to
proceed.
Gratitude can turn what seems like a failure into an
opportunity. You might start out by making a list of what you feel grateful
for. Feel free to get as specific and detailed as you like. For instance, you
might feel grateful for:
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your daughter
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your job
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your car
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a place to live
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friends
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family to provide support
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a boss that keeps you on your toes
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regular income that brings food on the table
And as you continue to make this list you might realize just
how lucky you are. You might recognize that you wouldn't want to ever
jeopardize your daughter's life again. What if you were drinking and instead of
going with your friend, you drove home and got into a car accident? What if you
weren't there for your daughter? Or perhaps your boss wasn't as understanding
and fired you right there and then? No longer having the money that provides
for you and your daughter would also be a major problem.
Suddenly, the apparent failure of relapse might begin to
look like an opportunity. With gratitude in your heart for your life and for
all that you have, you recommit to sobriety in a whole new way. This is an
opportunity to start over. This is a chance to experience life with your
daughter and never turn to drugs or alcohol again.